People
who have lived in the locality for some years will remember Dr Hilary Graver,
known to others as Mrs Hilary Jarrett. Long-time members of Friends of Mayow Park (FOMP) have very fond
memories of her.
Hilary
became actively involved with the Friends of Mayow Park in 1996 when it was
still known as Mayow Park Users’ Group and she remained very active until 2014.
As Chair of FOMP for 5 years and Treasurer of the group for much longer she
steered the group through a time when many parks were in decline, her aim
always to ensure that Mayow would be a much-loved and well-used park. She
pushed for the name change to Friends of Mayow Park in the late 1990s.
In
the early days the Friends of Mayow Park held their quarterly meetings in the
homes of members. Hilary knew many people in the community and it was not long
before she arranged with the then Head of Forest Hill School toallow FOMP to meet at his school and for him to participate
in our meetings. This arrangement continued until Peter Walsh retired as the
school Head.
TREES
She
believed in the importance of trees to the environment. In Mayow Park, she
cared about the magnificent ancient oak trees, which provide a home for many
invertebrates, birds and mammals. She, along with husband John and neighbour
Bruce, measured the girth of every oak tree and registered the results with the
Woodland Trust.
TREE
DRESSING
The
custom of tree dressing, which takes place annually on the first weekend in
December, was embraced by Hilary as a positive community activity in Mayow Park
for a number of years, with one particular oak tree being chosen, its long
horizontal branch no more than 8 feet above the ground.
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Hilary (on right) at Tree Dressing December 2008 ©
Heather Mallinder |
As
well as celebrating the ancient trees of Mayow Park, Hilary was keen to get
involved with tree planting. In January 2010 the Friends planted a larch, a
deciduous conifer, in recognition of the celebration of Tu B’shevat, the Jewish
New Year for trees. Hilary was there, spade at the ready, to make sure the tree
was well-planted.
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Planting a larch behind the bowls green January 2010 ©
Emma Tarling |
THE
COMMUNITY ORCHARD
The
first fruit trees were planted in January 2012. Sponsors were invited to come forward to
select heritage varieties to buy. Hilary chose and planted Lane’s Prince Albert
apple. It was a variety she knew from her childhood. For the next three years,
from spring to autumn, she and John came once a week to deliver 20 litres of
water to the roots of the tree, to ensure it would grow strong and healthy.
Eleven fruit trees were planted in 2012. Since then the orchard has expanded to
eighteen trees.
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Lane’s
Prince Albert apple tree © A Sheridan
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WATER
FOUNTAIN
Many
people like the ornamental, old Victorian drinking water fountain which is a
feature in the park. Long ago it went out of use, its lead pipes filled with
concrete and the drinking cups removed. There were some who wanted it restored
and Hilary took on the task to find out if this would be feasible. She
contacted the Metropolitan Drinking Fountain and Cattle Trough Association to
find out if it would be possible to apply for grants to restore it. She met
representatives from that Charity and all concluded that it would it would not
be possible. Undaunted, Hilary decided that the way forward would be the
installation of a new, modern drinking water fountain, as near as possible to
the Victorian one. Her communications with the Drinking Fountain Association
went back to 2009.
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Fountain
with new plaque installed 2014 © A Sheridan
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Hilary
wanted the public to be aware that the fountain was a contribution from the
Friends of Mayow Park with a grant from the Drinking Fountain Association so
she ordered this plaque which was installed by Fred Baverstock and his
colleague, Steve.
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Plaque located behind drinking fountain © A Sheridan |
BOWLS
CABINS
Another
campaign she led comes to mind: the installation of the bowls cabins on the
green so that the bowls club could vacate the pavilion which was in urgent need
of refurbishment. Hilary was furious that FOMP had not been fully consulted about
plans to install shipping containers between the bowls green and tennis courts.
Thanks to her negotiations with Lewisham and her local campaigning, the cabins
were finally located in their present position, though she always viewed their
current location as the lesser of two evils.
GREEN
FLAG
Mayow
Park was awarded its first Green Flag in 2011in recognition that the park had
reached a certain standard of maintenance and that the local community was
actively involved in caring for the park.
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October 2011 first Green Flag for Mayow Park ©
A Sheridan
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STATE
OF THE PATHS
The
dangerous state of the paths was a serious cause for concern and Hilary
campaigned hard for improvements. From time to time paths were temporarily
repaired, but this was never enough. The first genuine improvement was the complete
resurfacing of the path parallel to the children’s playground. Sadly, Hilary
did not live to celebrate the resurfacing of most of the paths, a task
completed in Summer 2016.
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New path towards children's playground July 2011 © A Sheridan |
PAST
MEMBER REMEMBERS
Emma,
a former member of FOMP, moved away from Sydenham a few years ago. She remembers
Hilary’s role in Mayow Park.
"I first became involved with FOMP at the end of 2008 as I was concerned with the state of the children's play area. At that time, the Mayor of London launched a competition to encourage communities to vote for funding to improve a selection of local parks.
I remember standing outside the Co-op with Hilary on cold winter days speaking to people about the future of Mayow Park and what was desperately needed to encourage more use. This competition created an awareness of our park within our neighbourhood and a steady flow of funding by other schemes and charities followed, giving us the opportunity to make those necessary improvements for the benefit of everybody in the community."
IN
THE NEWS
An
article in the Newsshopper January 2009 about
this competition quotes Hilary:
"The park has been badly neglected and
has been going downhill since the 70s. All it needs is some tender loving
care but it needs the money to do this. Most people want the paths improved,
the restoration of the pavilion, and a park keeper so everything can be
supervised."
Unfortunately Mayow Park did not win that competition though one in a neighbouring borough did.
THOUGHTS
FROM CLLR SUSAN WISE, A PERRY VALE WARD COUNCILLOR
"Although
I had known Hilary for many years, it was a pleasure to work with her when she
was Chair of the Friends of Mayow Park and I was Cabinet Member for Lewisham’s
Customer Services. Hilary’s commitment to improving the park and ensuring the
services it received from Lewisham Council’s parks maintenance were second to
none. Her tenacity with issues is expressed in the installation of the new
drinking water fountain which was much needed as Mayow Park’s Victorian one had
been taken out of use due to its original lead pipes."
CONCLUSION
It
is easy to list the many activities Hilary championed in Mayow Park but it does
not in any way convey the amount of documents that had to be read, letter
writing, telephone calls (before emails became common place) and meetings that
Hilary would have attended to ensure that whilst on her “watch” Mayow Park was
the best it could be.
Hilary
remained very active until 2014. Even after that she could be seen taking a
daily stroll round the park.
She
died on 29th July 2016 but her dedication to the park will remain a
lasting tribute.